“How many ways do we say it’s OK”
How many ways do we say it’s OK and give permission to others to do what they do? How many ways do we condone another’s actions while complaining about their lack of thought and selfishness? Without saying yes, its OK, we give our approval in so many ways.
When someone offends us and we ignore it, we condone their bad behaviour. When we resent what they do yet make excuses for them, we are justifying their actions. When they hurt us and we turn a blind eye to their cruel insensitivity, we are giving them permission to be selfish and thoughtless. If we blame ourselves for their actions we are freeing them from personal responsibility.
When we accept responsibility for their bad behaviour we take away their need for self control. When we choose to carry them indefinitely we rob them of the need for independence and the ability to stand on their own feet. When we avoid confrontation for the sake of an easy life, we make life easy for everyone but ourselves, and then carry the burden of misplaced guilt.
Allowing ourselves to become victims we are saying it’s acceptable to be used and abused, and sanction the things they do. We may resent the way they are without realising we have given them permission and said its OK in so many ways.
